Raise Me Up AND Raft With Me

Posted Sep 26 2011, 7:45 am in , , , , , , , ,

I just came home from a Sunday night wine date with my wordbitches Trish and Leanne, (yes we go for wine on Sundays, ya gotta do what ya gotta do) and the thought occurred to me on the way home… These ladies, brought together through one common interest a few years ago, have become besties. Not only are they both amazing, smart, talented women. They also both have kind, open and generous hearts and I’m proud to call them both friends.

I’m not sure how exactly we moved from critique group members and writing partners to friends, but it happened almost without us realizing it. It started with spending every second Thursday sipping lattes, reading each others work, offering suggestions and telling each other to ‘do better’. And then one day, we were telling each other about our families, our kids, our jobs, stresses, etc. Going on writing retreat weekends, meeting for coffee or wine outside of critique group and… the leap was made.

Since that bridge was crossed we’ve learned a lot about each other (good stuff and bad stuff) we’ve even risked our lives together. Yes, white water rafting is risky! I had to sign a waiver.

Yup, that's us up front. And Kelly, another great writing friend from Texas joined us too! Wild water indeed!

But I really knew these ladies were besties when I had a particularly crappy moment a few weeks ago. I shared with Leanne through private messages only moments after my crappy moment occurred. What followed was a ten minute exchange with her solidly building me up and making me laugh. She helped me through the crisis mode. The next day I shared the crappy moment with Trish via email. She responded with an email that brought me to tears (happy ones) because of the encouraging and wonderful things she had to say. See? Besties.

Besties make you feel better when all you want to do is cry. They kick you in the ass when you’re slacking off on your dreams. They give you the support, belief and encouragement that you need to believe in yourself. And they do it without expecting anything in return.

Quick bio for these great ladies. We all blog together over at wordbitches, all about the writing life. Leanne also blogs at ironicmom and stuffkidswrite She has a regular column in the Calgary Herald and can often be heard on CBC radio. She’s funny, sarcastic and if ever you need a laugh (cause who doesn’t) check her out. Trish is a kick ass, award winning Young Adult writer. She crafts a fight scene that will have you on the edge of your seat, and creates worlds that I can’t even dream about. She’s working on a post apocalyptic YA novel that is going to smoke the book world. Watch for her, you’ll be glad you did.

As you can see, I’m lucky to be in such great writing company. They humble me.

So, in honor of the completion of my Bestie Showcase, I have two things to share with you. The first is an inspirational video that I found and I believe encompasses exactly what Besties of all kind do for us. Whether it’s your sister-in-law, childhood friend, or parent. A good Bestie will raise us up. I’m not a church going gal, but I believe strongly in the power of people. Warning, this video made me bawl like a baby. (But I do that, so take it for what you will.)

The second thing I want to leave with you is an email I received from another Bestie, Sandy. She’s a mother of triplets only a few months older than my twins. We met when our babies were still babies. She has always normalized things for me. She has three, I have two. I. Can. Do. This.

She lives far away now, but we connect whenever we can. I am truly blessed by all the amazing women in my life. Those that have been mentioned publicly on my blog (thanks for that ladies) and the many other awesome women in my life. You know who you are, thank you!

Enjoy and thanks for hanging out with me during the Bestie Showcase.

Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.

Love waxes and wanes.

Men don’t do what they’re supposed to do.

Hearts break.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favors.

Careers end.


Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how

many miles are between you.

A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you

have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life

will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on,

praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on

your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the

valley’s end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk

beside you….Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters,

daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers,

Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended

family: all bless our life!

The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and

neither would I.. When we began this adventure called

womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or

sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we

would need each other.



9 responses to “Raise Me Up AND Raft With Me”

  1. Yup, “not impossible.” Honoured to be among your besties. Meeting and befriending you and T help make Calgary a home, that’s for sure.

    You rock.

    Now be a bestie and get me a tissue.

  2. Sandy says:

    You should know you’ve always been an inspiration to me. Thanks for being that and a friend.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thank you for that. <3
      You inspire me all the time, and that's why we're good for each other! And I love knowing that you're only a 'text' away.

  3. Trish Loye Elliott says:

    I’m honoured (and sniffling). My writing and my life would be so much less without you and Leanne in it. thank you.
    Love the video and the song. Gotta get it for my WIP playlist!

  4. Hartford says:

    LOVE your besties posts. Makes me want to call up all my besties and tell them how fantastic and fabulous they each are and hug them for dear life. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Besties rock!

  5. You know that saying…you can’t choose your relatives but you can choose your friends? 🙂

    My two closest friends live in Chicago and L.A. I miss them, but if they lived close by, I’d never get any writing done.

    Terrific post!

  6. I’m late getting to this but never want to miss your bestie posts! Sooo good! I loved the text ending and have printed it to put over my desk. Thanks!

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