My Mom – My Bestie

Posted Sep 19 2011, 8:00 am in , , , , , ,

For the last few weeks I’ve been profiling some of the besties in my life. I’ve introduced you to Deb, Tammy and Alli. But a Bestie Showcase would not be complete without the addition of this weeks bestie…

My mom.

It wasn’t always this way. Growing up, I wasn’t what you would call the easiest child. I may have been a bit ‘spirited’, emotional and prone to drama. I know, you’re shocked right?!

But then a funny thing happened, I grew up and I moved out. Once there was a bit of distance between us, I suddenly could get to know my mom better. As a person, not as the woman who made me clean my room or be home at a certain time, but as an actual person.

As the years passed and I’ve become a mother myself, I’ve realized that her job wasn’t easy. Especially when you’ve been blessed with a dramatic , spirited daughter. I get it, because I now have one of my own. Somehow Mom and I came out of those years and are stronger, better people for having had them. (At least that’s what I like to think.)

My Biggest Supporter!

Now, we talk on the phone every few days, filling each other in on what’s going on in our lives. She’s one of the first ones I want to tell when something exciting happens. She’s my biggest cheer leader and my number one fan. When I published my debut novel this summer, she was arguably the very first person who bought it, even though she’d already read it. She’s also the best P.R. person ever. I swear, she tells everyone about my book. And I do mean, everyone!

This summer I ran my very first Olympic length triathlon. It was a big deal for me. I was nervous, excited and totally scared. I didn’t even have to ask and Mom made sure they could arrange their schedule to be there, cheering me on for every transition and all the way across the finish line. For anyone who’s done a big event, they know, the cheer squad is crucial!

A remarkable woman, she is strong, creative and caring with a huge loving heart. She is the type of woman I want to be. She’s taught me so much over the years just by watching her. She probably didn’t think I was paying attention, but I was. One of the most important things I learned through her was how to be a friend. Everyone likes Mom. She always has dozens of friends, and has had the same ones for years. She will do anything for her friends, she will be there whenever she’s needed and to her, friends are family. Watching her and the relationships she had with her own besties over the years, taught me what it meant to be a friend and what I wanted in my own friendships. The perfect example.

So, here’s to mom.

A good mother? Yes.

A true bestie? Absolutely!

And I’m proud to call her my mom and my friend.

So tell me, are you and your mom close? Would you consider her a bestie?



25 responses to “My Mom – My Bestie”

  1. Hartford says:

    Awwww…I love it! I totally considering my Mom one of my besties. Actually, she may very well be my TOP bestie! Like you, we struggled through childhood and teen years together. But as I grew into adulthood, we managed to repair and build a new relationship; one based on mutual respect and unconditional love. I don’t know where I’d be without her. She’s my inspiration and my biggest cheerleader!! And I am hers!!!
    Here’s to uberlicious Moms!!!

    • Elena Aitken says:

      I love it. Uberlicious moms!
      It is amazing and awesome that we are able to rebuild these relationships after the teen years. A true testament to how awesome the mother/daughter relationship can be!

  2. Katie Gates says:

    Wonderful post. And it sounds so familiar — the difficult relationship during the “wonder years,” and the friendship that developed once a bit of geographic distance had set in. My mom and I have very similar rhythms, and though she’s getting on in years (she’s 84), I still count on her friendship and counsel. Too, she’s great with the PR on my novel. (I consider her my East Coast Regional Sales Manager.)

  3. Jan says:

    Yes, Your Mom is one of the best people I know!

  4. Awww, what a great post!
    My daughter and I are on our way to becoming how you and your mom are now. We lived through her teen years and are now getting to know one another as adults. It’s awesomesauce covered in chocolate. Okay, that actually doesn’t sound very good to eat, but it’s amazing and I love her more each day. Which, I never thought would be possible.
    I wish I could say the same about my mom and me, but it’s not the bestie relationship I’d always dreamed of having. Once I realized this, it became so much less stressful. I’d been trying to force our relationship into a place it didn’t want to go. I miss so much of what you talk about in your post, but life is life and this is the only one I’ve got. I can cry about it or move on.

    An Olympic Triathlon? You are wonder woman covered in chocolate! Awe-mazing!!

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thanks, Tameri.
      I’m so glad to hear that you have that with your daughter. I truly do hope that’s what the future holds in store for me and mine as well. ๐Ÿ™‚

      And good for you for accepting that which you cannot change. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Well, my mom is Not by bestie. Not by a long shot. My (adult) younger daughter and I, however, are close friends. I guess it’s all about relationships and how your mother treated you growing up.

    It’s great that you and your mom are close. Give her a hug from me. She deserves it.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Cheryel, I think it has a lot to do with how I was treated growing up. And although I always knew who was in charge (I tested that A LOT) it was done with respect. I’m glad you have that closeness with your daughter. ๐Ÿ™‚
      I’ll give my mom a hug next time I see her!

  6. Lovely post. My mom and I are besties too. We always have been. She’s supportive of everything and she’s always been there for me, especially when I was sick a lot as a kid and struggling with depression. She was never judgmental about that. We’re actually roommates now, and I get along better with her than I do most people my age, lol.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      A supportive mom bestie is as good as it gets! And non-judgmental helps a lot too! ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thanks for the comment, Angela.

  7. docmama says:

    I’m teary! That was great. Your mom is a very special lady, and I too look up to her for many things, but particularly for her friendships.

  8. Bionic Grandma says:

    AH, thanks Elena. You made me cry. Thanks so much for including me in your bestie list, I feel very privileged! I do feel we have a special friendship that has grown over the years and I am very proud to have you as a daughter.

  9. Just last night my mom and I laughed over the phone until we couldn’t breathe and had tears coming down our faces. I was telling her about my latest writing projects, which are slightly (?) double entendre and we both started riffing on them…

    She has the biggest heart ever, she is *everyone’s* mom, and she has the sharpest wit.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      I LOVE hearing about your mom. She sounds fabulous. And knowing what your latest writing projects are…I can just imagine that conversation!
      Easy to see where you get your sharp wit from. ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thanks for commenting. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  10. Kristen says:

    Agreed Elena – my mom is awesome as well – she is crazy and hyper but so much fun to be aroundโ€ฆ.actually, that kind of describes your mom too who I think is super fabulous. I wish I lived closer to my mom so I could glean some of her wisdom more oftenโ€ฆ! It is a major influencing factor in where I will eventually choose to raise my daughter as I want her to be influenced by this strong and adventurous woman!

  11. Awww! That’s such a sweet post. I miss my mom terribly now. My mom is my bestie too and I live too far away from her. Currently there are only two people who can ‘manipulate’ me into doing what they want: my mom and my hubs. I meant this in a good way because sometimes I need the nudge to do the right things.

    Also congrats on finishing the triathlon! You’re awesome!

  12. tiabach says:

    Great post. I am so close to my mom now, but I couldn’t wait to get out of the house initially. I feel blessed because my mom and I wrote a novel together. I look forward to passing it on to my daughters, and I hope we will be as close as I am with my mom. It’s a gift!

  13. Lori Dyan says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your awesome mom! It’s ironic how we often need to become mothers ourselves before we can really appreciate our own moms.

  14. Lisa Potts says:

    I also consider my mom a true bestie. Glad I’m not alone! Funny how Mom gets smarter as I get older.

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