I’ve Known You So Long, We’re Practically Related – Bestie

Posted Sep 12 2011, 8:07 am in , , , , , ,

I’m excited to introduce you to this weeks’ bestie! But before I do, if you’ve missed the last two installments, go check out what awesome ladies Deb and Tammy are. I’m so fortunate to have such great girls in my life.

Eight years old. Check out the dresses!

I’ve experienced a lot of wonderful things with my friends over the years, but there is one lady who has been there, next to me, through it all. Together we’ve gone through a lot of stuff. Mostly good. Some bad.

I’ve been friends with Alli since grade one when we sat next to each other in Mrs. Villenuva’s classroom. We were six. Soon we were playing at recess, after school and then we joined Brownies together. Once you’ve camped in a canvas tent in the rain and cooked watery oatmeal for breakfast together, you’re tight.

And we were. All through school, Alli was the friend that could always be counted on. No matter what. Always.

Grade 9 grad. More interesting dress choices

Through sleep overs, boys, junior high angst, summers at the lake (hers and mine), softball team, girl guides, drivers ed, and everything in between, we grew up together. I’ve at times referred to Alli as the sister I never had, because we’ve known each other so long, she might as well be IS family.

Together at fifteen we traveled to Switzerland and Paris together, our first trip anywhere without parents (at least not ours), a few years later we were graduating. Diplomas in hand, we knew life was about to change for us. And it did. That fall I moved away to University.

Sailing in Oz

Alli stayed. It was the first time we’d been apart since we met.

But with a bestie like Alli, distance doesn’t matter. For the next five years, through university, new friends and new boyfriends, we stayed close. One summer, we traveled to Australia together and backpacked up the coast. There was no one else I would have done it with. We left our boyfriends behind and had two months of adventure and time together. One of the best summers I’ve ever had!

A few years later, degrees finished, I moved back home, Alli stood next to me while I said “I do,” and a few months later it was her turn to go. She went further. Back to Australia. This time it wasn’t a vacation. It sucked, and it was hard. And I remember there being a lot of tears. Probably mostly from me.

Alli spent the next eight years on the other side of the world (which is her only excuse for missing the birth of my twins!)  I’ve never met someone who works as hard as she does to get what she wants. When Alli decides she wants something, she goes after it. She studied her butt off and became a Optometrist. I totally get to call her doctor now. Then she worked even harder to jump through the many hoops the Canadian government put up, in order to pass her board exams and practice in Canada. She rocks.

My wedding 2000

And now she’s back. Two years ago Alli moved back to Canada and last year (ten years after she did it for me) I got to stand next to her while she said, “I do”.  It was my turn to stand up, swallow my tears and tell her how much she means to me.  I swallowed most of them. (maybe a few leaked out).

Her wedding 2010

I don’t know what the future holds for us, if she’ll move again, if I will. But I do know that a twenty-seven year friendship like ours is not easily broken. It doesn’t matter where in the world we are. She’ll be my bestie forever, because she’s family.

I know I’ve asked before. But I LOVE hearing your stories about besties. Tell me, do you have a sister who is your best friend? What about a best friend that’s like a sister? I don’t have a sister, but Alli’s the next best thing.

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23 responses to “I’ve Known You So Long, We’re Practically Related – Bestie”

  1. Hartford says:

    Love it! I have a bestie that’s much the same. We don’t live near each other anymore and sometimes months will pass without talking but it doesn’t matter. After 28 years of friendship, it doesn’t matter…we are more like sisters. Whenever we see each other, we pick up where we left off….we’ve been there for each other through some of the best and some of the toughest times…

    One year she had a beautiful plaque created for me with a poem I bet would ring true to you and your bestie. It’s called Sisters By Heart.

    We’re not sisters by birth
    But we’ve known from the start
    God put us together to be
    Sisters by heart

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thanks for the comment, Natalie!
      I love that about Alli, it doesn’t matter how much time has passed, we can just pick up. Love that you have a bestie like that too!
      That’s a beautiful poem. I’m going to save that one. 🙂

  2. You know I love reading about your friendships. What a wonderful history you and Alli share! Last week one of my best friends was here in France with us for a week. 44 years ago she and I came to Europe for a year when we were 22. We had a lot of laughs last week actually revisiting a few spots that held special memories for us and proving that no matter how many years go by, some things never change! True friendship lasts forever.

  3. It’s funny, my best friend and I have known each other since our moms took us to Moms & Tots, but we haven’t always been friends. We’ve actually gone through periods of being besties, then definitely not liking each other, to being friends again. We hit another dry patch in college, but now we’re best friends again. I love her, and I think we’re both old enough now not to let minor things break up our friendship. 🙂

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thanks for stopping by, Angela.
      That’s the great thing about a forever friendship, little things can’t crack it! Congrats on having that with your friend. 🙂

  4. Naomi Bulger says:

    Definitely, good friends are family. This weekend I am leaving for Paris, to spend a week with two girlfriends I’ve had since high school. No distance or time lessens our friendship. I have two wonderful friends in Sydney who are every bit as much family to me as my relatives. I call my best girlfriend who lives in New York the sister I never had.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Paris!? That sounds amazing. What a brilliant way to spend time with your besties. I think I may have to work on a Paris trip…
      So true, good friends are family. Often, closer than family. 🙂
      thanks for commenting, Naomi.

  5. judywelch says:

    When one does not have a sister to be your best friend a friend who can be like a sister is very special. Your friendship or should I say sistership with Alli is definitely that. I did not have a sister either but have been very lucky to have some special women in my life who have been like a sister to me as well.

  6. You look so much alike!
    What a sweet story of you and Alli. I love reading about your close friendships, makes me want to know more and more about you.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thanks, Tameri!
      I’m really enjoying writing about these great ladies. Makes me really realize what wonderful people I have in my life.
      And, we do kinda look alike. She was always the blond to my brunette. Over the years we did get asked more than once if we were sisters. 🙂

  7. Tanya Maksymic says:

    I have never had this experience so I appreciate and enjoy reading about this. Really amazing.

    • Elena Aitken says:

      Thanks for stopping by, Tanya!
      I am super fortunate to have hung onto my bestie for so long. She hasn’t given me the boot yet!

  8. Trisha says:

    I’ve got a best friend I met in high school – we have that sort of friendship where we can not talk for months & still pick up where we left off. I love it!

    This was a great entry, and a lovely celebration of your awesome friendship!

  9. Lori Dyan says:

    You look like sisters! I recently reconnected with a woman I’ve known for 25 years, but haven’t spoken to in 10. It was like no time had passed at all – the true sign of a good friendship 🙂

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  12. Alli says:

    I feel so loved! This is a great blog. I’m so glad you can say exactly what i’m thinking. I’m truly lucky to have a friend like you – wherever we end up living!
    PS: did you use the worst photos you could find?! We had awesome hair and fashion back then. Ha!
    Your Bestie, Alli

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